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If your young 'un is already a Wheathampstead Wanderer, we're sure that you will be aware that our club is widely recognised as having a great set of supportive parents and coaches, and a reputation for fair play and sportsmanship. This is something we try to cultivate across all age groups, and we are eternally grateful for the support we receive from all our parents.
 

You'll Win Nothing With Kids - Jim White

‘Parental support is massive,’ [Brian] McClair tells me. ‘I’d go so far as to say you won’t make it without parents. In any sport. I’ve spoken to people who’ve said: “That kid’ll play for England at rugby, cricket, whatever.” And I say: “Were his mum and dad at the game?” And they say: “No.” And I say: “Are they ever there?” They say: “No, not really.” And I come back a year later, and the kid’s not there.’ He is right. This is the paradox at the heart of youth football: it may be all about the kids, but it is the parents who matter.

 
 
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10 Commandments Of Parental Behaviour (Source Unknown)

  1. Talk about the other children, on both teams, in the same manner you would like other parents to talk about your child. This is the GOLDEN RULE applied to all sports. Watching kid’s sports tends to be a social affair. When you’re having a conversation on the sideline with your friends and neighbors, think about what you’re saying before you actually say it. To always be on the safe side, only voice praise for all of the children. That way, you’ll never go wrong.
  2. It’s nice to give the coach a pat on the back when he or she wins. It’s even nicer to do it after a loss. Remember, the vast majority of coaches are volunteers who are sacrificing their own time to help your child. Give them a well deserved salute, especially if the team hasn’t fared too well.
  3. Don’t hesitate to give the referee/umpire a pat on the back either. As you might have been aware, they are people too. They also like it when parents and fans acknowledge their on-field efforts. Why don’t you lead the way?
  4. Remind your child that it’s the effort that counts. We all know that kids want to win. That’s a given. However, for every winning team, there’s also a losing team. Be prepared to cushion your child’s disappointment after a loss by pointing out that he or she played hard and put forth a tremendous effort.
  5. Avoid the post-game analysis. When the game is over and your child climbs back into your car, avoid at all costs the detailed, excruciating post-game analysis of everything he or she did right and wrong. Let them “chill out”, savor the fun of having played, and relax. The absolute worst time for “friendly criticism” is immediately after the game.
  6. SMILE. A lot. Kid’s sports are about having fun, and because kids take their behavioral cues from you, try to at least look like you’re enjoying yourself.
  7. If parents aren’t a good sport at the games, the kids won’t either. This should be self-evident. If you set a pattern of being a sideline loudmouth who likes to yell and scream at the ref, coach, or opposing team, don’t be surprised when you kids start to copy your behavior. You will only have yourself to blame.
  8. Take the time to learn the rules of the game. Many kids these days are playing sports you may not be familiar with. If you don’t know the rules, why don’t you and your child learn them together. Besides, it’s always a good idea to read the rule book. It just might help in settling a dispute. (Plus, nothing is more embarrassing than to complain about a call, only to be wrong in your complaint because you don’t know the rules.)
  9. If you must make noise at games, shout only praise and encouragement. If you’re a screamer and yeller, make sure that when you open your mouth, you’re only pouring forth cheerful encouragement for your child’s team. There is never a place for derogatory, snide or sarcastic comments at kid’s games. Plus, it is extremely embarrassing for your child to see you making a fool of yourself at the game in front of his or her teammates and friends.
  10. Above all, be there for your children. Support them, praise them, tell them you’re proud of them, and let themknow you can always be counted on for unconditional love…regardless of the score.


PROMOTING FOOTBALL, CREATING A POSITIVE ENVIRONMENT

Wheathampstead Wanderers aim not just to play football but to promote football.  We seek to place the interests of the players first, creating a positive environment in which to learn and love the game.

 

BEFORE THE GAME

DO:

- Make our guests feel welcome;

- Put out the cones needed to mark the respect line and respect signs before our guests arrive;

- Ensure the pitch is safe, goals are properly anchored and there are flags on all corner poles;

- Make sure a match delegate has been appointed, wears the MD jacket, and is aware of their duties.

 

DURING THE GAME

DO:

- Provide positive encouragement for all the children, and applaud good play from both teams;

- Let the kids play and enjoy the experience of learning for themselves;

- Allow the coach to provide the coaching;

- Promote and acknowledge good sportsmanship;

- Enjoy the game.

DON’T:

- Make any derogatory or negative comments to, or about, anyone;

- Question the referee’s decisions;

- Raise your voice or shout at the children, coaches, referee or our guests;

- Stand in front of, or pace up and down, the respect line or stand behind the goal;

- Enter the pitch, even if your child is injured, unless invited to do so;

- Expect too much from the children.

 

AFTER THE GAME

DO:

- Praise all the children, thank the coaches and referee and enquire after anyone injured;

- Take all litter away;

- Make sure all equipment is backed away and stored neatly;

- Ensure any storage facilities and gates are locked.

 
 
 
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Dave Boynton,
Feb 14, 2013, 1:59 AM
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